Spoken Query

A friend asked: I am in the US and my BF is in India. He said that the only way we can keep this relationship going is if I agree to do naked video calls with him. I did not want to lose him so I told him that I have CCTV cameras installed inside the house and my devices are not encrypted. I know it was lame and I did apologize to him for this. I also tried to persuade him that exchanging nudity on the internet is not safe. But he is extremely annoyed at my excuses and explanations and broke off with me. What should I do now? First of all, your toxic-minded BF has no right to force you to do something that you are not comfortable doing. A 'No' is a 'No is a 'No', no justification is required. It is a matter of your consent. Don't let this dude mentally or emotionally rape you. If he has been threatening to break up with you just because you do not want to strip in front of him, then he is more than welcome to FO. He has made it extremely clear that you and you

A friend asked me: I met this guy on online and we have been chatting for the past two months. He is married but his marriage is going through a rough time. He seemed nice and very charming and I instantly got attracted to him.  It all started with a very healthy friendship until one day he confessed his love for me. He said that when the time comes, he is ready to leave his wife and child for me and marry me and until then we should chat so we can understand each other very well. Everything was going great until recently he pressurized me to send him nude pictures of myself to him. I said NO because I do not want to and I am not going to. He broke up with me.  Here are the recent accusations that he has made towards me and my replies to him: BF: I am fed up with your conditions. Me: When we started chatting, you said everything will be mutual and no one will force the other to do anything that they are not comfortable doing. You are adding this new condition now. That's breac

Yes, it is cheating if you are sexting with someone other than your significant other or your committed partner! While many of you may not agree with me because you are not practically doing anything in reality. I agree with it to some extent especially if you are sexting with someone you are committed to a relationship or you are casually seeing someone and aren't committed in a relationship then maybe it is not cheating. However, if you are committed to a relationship, then it is cheating, buddy!  My friend recently met this guy on a social media app and started talking to him. His great sense of humor immediately caught her attention. After a few interactions, this guy asked her,  "What is your viewpoint on lovemaking. You are married, right? So, that makes you experienced in this regard."  This was a first warning sign and she should have cut the conversation then and there. Unfortunately, she didn't.  This guy apologized for his behavior and said that

I have recently joined a social networking app and one of my followers has sent me this message,  "I met a woman on this app and we started dating each other a month ago. I even got naked on camera for her. However, when I told her that I am seriously in love with her, she said that she is married and after that, she has blocked me on the app's messenger. I still love her and I am clueless about how she could do this to me?" Another follower said,  "I am married and have a child. I don't have a good married life and my wife and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for the past two years. In the past seven years, I couldn't recognize my wife very well. " In the above examples, it is possible that you  believe  their story and develop sympathy for such a person that might eventually translate into falling in love. CAUTION!!  I don't know if the first guy was lying or not as I have no idea about his real identity. However, I was able to tr

Getting married is a deeply personal choice. But once you have done that, there are some uncultured and ill-mannered people who always seem to ask annoying questions to prove their illiteracy. May be their intentions are harmless but the way it comes out, it can be psychologically harmful. I’m sure they cannot resist their nosy nature but please don’t embarrass yourselves by asking these questions to a married woman: 1. How's married life? So, you want to know if my husband and I are having sex? Who has given you the permission to ask what’s going on inside a couple’s bedroom? Do you realize that what you are doing is known as 'voyeurism'.  2. When are you giving the good news? This one is my favorite questions (sarcasm intended). Whether I have a child or not, how is it that going to help you? Just because someone is married doesn’t mean that they start producing babies. People don’t get married to have sex or babies (unless you are a horny pervert). Wheth